If you “cancel” it, it will either end up in limbo or you’ll be giving each other phony karma. Just go with it, and repost the item you decided not to trade.

well, we decided that i would just send her the other item and i would take it down and just put back up the original item.

I’d recommend making your first trades with excellent karma users instead. If you’re already stuck in one, use OTHER feedback for reference (ebay, swapstyle, etc.) OR just take the chance. Tell them you’ll spam their address if you don’t get your stuff.

you should trade with someone who has karma, so that you know for sure your not gonna get screwed out of your things. Once you get karma, then you can make someone with no karma ship first lol :) works great